“Sam, you will regret more of the things you don’t do than the things you do,” said my friend and office mailman, Jack. I could see the sadness in his eyes as he quietly sat still thinking about all the things he should have done.
“I should have taken more risks. I should have tried new things. I should have planned my finances better. I’m 56 years old and I’ve got hardly any savings. This wasn’t the life I envisioned,” he continued.
Every afternoon for 10 years Jack and I would chat for five minutes about our respective futures. He was a frail fella who sometimes came into work with a bandaid on his bald head to cover the sunspots that gradually formed over time.
Then one day he stopped showing up. Jack, the kind man who made $33,000 a year and beloved by all was laid off. The financial crisis showed no mercy, not even to a loyal employee who cost the least.
THREE WAYS TO AVOID REGRET
2008-2009 is a time period that many of us would rather soon forget. But ironically, the financial crisis helped embolden me and several of my friends to take more risks. Going through the worst downturn ever and surviving made us realize nothing else could be as bad.
Ever since riding in the back of my parent’s friend’s Mercedes as a 7th grader, I’ve always wanted to be an entrepreneur. But I neither had the guts, nor the financial wherewithal to take such risk. I turned down an entrepreneurial opportunity to work in Shenzhen, China in 1999 for the “safety” of working in finance in New York City. But every year I worked, I wondered what my life would have been like if I took the left fork in the road instead.
Regret is one of the worst feelings ever. I should have just kissed her, was one regret that plagued me all throughout high school. I didn’t want to look back as a 70 year old and regret having never tried entrepreneurship, so I took the leap of faith in the spring of 2012 to do my own thing. It’s petrifying to go from making a decent income to making hardly anything for the first year. But I don’t regret the move one bit.
Here are three ways to avoid regret:
1) Provide maximum effort. You can fail due to brutal competition, unforeseen exogenous variables, or simply a bad idea. But never fail due to a lack of effort. Hard work requires no skill, therefore you are in full control of your work ethic provided you are an able bodied person. If you’ve truly tried your best, then regret will be minimized because you know that there was nothing more you could do. The regret won’t completely go away, but it will be small enough that it won’t send you into some dark hole.
2) Ask yourself what’s the worst that could happen. Once you understand the realistic worst case scenario, then everything else isn’t so bad. Almost everyone I knew lost 30%-60% of their net worth during the financial crisis. Even if you ended up selling everything at the bottom, you’re probably still standing and in better shape than you were before. Having an idea of the worst case scenario creates a backstop that helps eradicate fear. But there’s a likelihood that many other scenarios will happen instead. Come up with at least two different subpar scenarios and steps you plan to take to improve the situations. The more scenarios you can plan out, the more prepared you will be. Part of regret comes from getting blind-sided by circumstances that could be avoided with better planning.
3) Imagine yourself with only one year left to live. There’s a great line in the movie Inception where Saito asks, “Don’t you want to take a leap of faith? Or become an old man, filled with regret, waiting to die alone?” Life speed accelerates. Eventually we’ll realize the end is near and pontificate on all the things that could have been. Try projecting yourself into the future and understand what are the things you will most regret. Surely you will regret more of the things you didn’t try than the adventures you took.
THE REGRET MINIMIZATION FRAMEWORK
Have a watch at how Jeff Bezos, founder of Amazon came to the conclusion of quitting his well-paying banker job mid-way through the year to start Amazon.
Unless you are extremely lucky, nothing great is going to just happen to you. Take action, provide maximum effort, do your best to plan for the unknown, and hope for better days ahead. If she slaps you for trying to kiss her after the third date, if the Venture Capitalist rejects your one minute elevator pitch, or if the new job opportunity doesn’t work out, at least you know you tried. The sting of rejection only lasts a short while. Regret lasts for a lifetime.
Readers, what are your regrets? How do you minimize your regress and maximize happiness?
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