Tori Dunlap is a millennial money and career expert. After saving $100,000 at age 25, Tori founded Her First $100K* to fight financial inequality by giving women actionable resources to better their money. A Plutus award winner, her work has been featured on Good Morning America, New York Magazine, Forbes, CNBC, and more. \r\n\r\nEvery month, Tori will be answering reader questions in her new series for Daily Capital, "Dear Tori." Do you have burning finances questions you've always been afraid to ask? Is money becoming a cause of stress in your life and you want to learn how to manage it better? Are you wondering how to talk to your partner about finances? What about educating your kids on good money habits? Leave us a question in the comments section below! Tori will break down the questions you've always had about money in an approachable way.\r\n\r\n\t“Dear Tori,\r\n\tI live with my boyfriend. I believe we are life partners. We split rent and groceries. But for now our finances (bank, etc.) are separate.\r\n\tI\u2019m interested to hear how couples deal with shared finances. I make a lot more than my partner right now, so for example, I paid a lot more for our dog's recent vet emergency than he did. I honestly have no resentment about it, but this is the first time I\u2019m living with a partner (I\u2019m 30) and I\u2019d love to learn about all the things we should be figuring out and talking about and doing to make combining finances easier later if we go that way, especially when people make different incomes.\r\n\tWhat should I do?”\r\n\r\nThanks for your question. You should know, right off the bat, that managing money as a couple can be one of the most challenging, yet rewarding, financial milestones \u2014 and is something I\u2019m constantly asked about by my coaching clients, so you\u2019re not alone.\r\n\r\nPersonal finance is personal. The way you manage money in your relationship is entirely up to you and your partner, but you should start by creating what I call a \u201cmoney date.\u201d It\u2019s a half-hour commitment, once a month, that goes in your calendar. Make it something you look forward to \u2014 maybe a bottle of wine and takeout from your favorite restaurant \u2014 and check in on your money together. Talk to each other in terms of shared goals, like \u201cI know we want to travel to Japan in September. How do we use money as a tool to get there?\u201d Conversations about money should be open, transparent and frequent; and giving yourselves dedicated time to have them will be a game-changer.\r\n\r\nBecause you and your partner have a wage discrepancy, it might be worth looking into how you\u2019re splitting expenses, and discuss a solution that would work for both of you. Many couples split expenses 50\/50, while others split according to the ratio of cost vs. income. For example, if you make $100,000 and your partner makes $75,000 \u2014 a total income of $175,000 \u2014 you\u2019ll divide your income by the total to get 57%. That would be the percentage of expenses you\u2019re in charge of paying, while your partner would pay 43%.\r\n\r\nMany couples choose to share finances differently \u2014 some keep entirely separate bank accounts, while some choose to combine everything. In Personal Capital\u2019s Love and Money survey, almost half (47%) of people shared that the thought of combining finances with their significant other makes them feel more confident about their finances and more confident in their relationship. I have found success with clients who do a hybrid: they keep their finances largely separate, but have a shared account for shared expenses or shared goals. This makes paying regular bills easy, while also allowing you the freedom and control you might crave. Regardless of what method you chose, I cannot stress enough how important it is to have at least a bit of your own money. This is not sneaky or secretive, it\u2019s safe.\r\n\r\nAnd speaking of safe, if you do end up getting married, a prenup is always something to consider. While many consider prenups unromantic or like you\u2019re \u201cdooming a relationship to fail\u201d, it can actually be a source of great comfort to both of you.\r\n\r\nThe fact that you\u2019re considering financial next steps with your partner are amazing, and regardless of how you proceed, remember that communication is key. Use money as a resource to build the life you want together!\r\n\r\n-Tori Dunlap\r\n\r\nHave a question about money? Leave a comment to be included in a future installment of "Dear Tori."\r\n\r\nRead the 2020 Love and Money Report\r\n\r\n\r\n*Personal Capital compensates Tori Dunlap (\u201cAuthor\u201d) for providing the content contained in this blog post. 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